Stupid fear...

[Zraiiah]

I probably have one of the most stupid fears ever, I know this, and I know the object of fear can not hurt me at all, so why am I still so afraid? I have Anthophobia (Fear of Flowers) and it's just gotten completely out of control. If I'm not doing something to distract me I'm thinking about my fear. I can hardly sleep at night, I think about them and them touching me and I twitch uncontrolably... 9/10 times I have the same dream over and over about my fear, sometimes the setting changes but it's all the same. I think about how it'll affect my future. I have a 3 month old sister who'll probably bring me "pretty pretty flowers" when she gets a little older. How would she possibly be able to understand why "big sister" freaked out/screamed/passed out/ or something. What if I'm asked to be a bride's maid in a wedding? I can't hold the bouquet, I'd freak. It haunts me every chance it gets, and I know it's silly. I've tried asking my mom if I can get help, from a psycologist or something, but she thinks she can solve everything. She thinks she can get rid of my fear by exposing me to it. She's bought me flowers... It's just torture... if anything I'd just end up with PTSD or just hate her forever... I do love her but I just don't know what to do...

[minxy]

Hi Zraiiah,

First of all, welcome to anxiety and phobias forum. Please don't say you have got a stupid fear or phobia. We have seen many strange phobias ever imagined so relax. Let me congratulate you for being a such a brave person and being frank enough to let your fear out. Thats the first way of getting it killed. The more you talk about it and more it comes out, the better.
I have heard that the anthophobia or these phobias/fear commonly called as negative emotions is "The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system". Thoughts, habits, beliefs, strategies or any other thing although they do play a factor are "the branches" whereas 'energy system" is the root of these negative emotions. To balance out energy system in our body, there are various self help techniques which can help. I personally do Yoga and small breathing exercises which are ok for a normal energy flow in the body. but for keeping out any negative emotions, more is needed. Kundalini yoga, a type of yoga which invokes 'some key energy points' in our body is a perfect technique. I would also advise you to see energy psychologist who are trained in elevating energy balancing in our body.

There are one link here which I feel you should read upon for knowing much more about energy techniques;

http://website.lineone.net/~dr.mgm/eet.html (http://website.lineone.net/%7Edr.mgm/eet.html)


Secondly the easiest but much slower techniques to cure your fear is talk therapy. Go on chatting with people with whom you are comfortable about your fear. The best way is this forum. Let us know how u experience it, ur first acquaintance with this fear, etc , etc. The more you talk about it, the more it gets away from you.

I hope it helped in out in some way. My best advise is just relax and be more open about it. After all, you will or are saving lots of your BF's cash (I have to spend loads of money in buying those beautiful flowers for my friends). But I promise, I will be the first person to gift you a bunch of beautiful flowers when your fear will disappear :).

Cheers,
Minxy

[Zraiiah]

Well I'm only 16 and mom doesn't want to take me anywhere to help. She just thinks exposing me will get rid of it. I know that is one of the techniques but that one scares me too much. It has gotten a lot worse the last few weeks, which is why I'm trying to seek help online. I'd never be good at the self-help type stuff. Something that also gets in the way is we don't have money for any type of classes or anything. It's weird talking to a complete stranger lol.. I almost feel like I'm seeking attention or something, one of the reasons I hate talking about it.. x_x;

Oh, haha, about the saving bf's money for flowers thing... Instead I make him get me pretty jewelry, even worse right? ;)

[minxy]

haha, your poor boyfriend, must be praying for you to recover soon from anthophobia. Seeing ur reply, We all here in this forum would welcome you to speak loud and clear with out bothering about any attention. In fact we would love to be any helpful. You know, there are many out here who have helped and getting help by interacting and learning tips to recover from what negative emotions their are going through.

Speak out whatever you feel about anthophobia and we all here will be there.

Cheers,
Minxy